17 May, 2007


Been really sad and angry for the past couple of days cause of a comment I read in one of the posts, which took some week Hadith and misinterpreted some others from el sona regarding the role of women in our society.

Some of the Hadith he mentioned were
((أعدى عدوك زوجتك التي تضاجعك، وما ملكت عينيك)) قال الألباني: إنه ضعيف
((للمرأة ستران القبر والزوج. قيل: وأيهما أفضل؟ قال: القبر)) رواه الطبراني في المعجم الكبير والصغير وهو موضوع

And lots more, and used such week Hadith to show how Islam and Sona are degrading women and used all the week hadith to support his argument.

What really hurt is people are believing such arguments and taking such wrong hadith as given.

Why was other more stronger hadith ignored like

أوصيكم بالنساء خيراً.. اوصيكم بالنساء خيراً.. اوصيكم بالنساء خيراً
And not just once, but 3 times.

ما أكثر ما تذكرها حمراء الشدق ! قد أبدلك الله عز وجل بها خيراً منها . قال : ما أبدلني الله عز وجل خيرا منها ؛ قد آمَنَتْ بي إذ كفر بي الناس ، وصدقتني إذ كذبني الناس ، وواستني بمالها إذا حرمني الناس ، ورزقني الله عز وجل ولدها إذ حرمني أولاد النساء . رواه الإمام أحمد .

And this was said when Sala ALLAH alieh wa salam was asked why he remember El Sayeda Khadiga so much and it shows how Salah ALLAH alieh we salam recognize her.

فقال الرسول عليه الصلاة و السلام (((إنما النساء شقائق الرجال، ما أكرمهن إلا كريم، وما أهانهن إلا لئيم )))، (رواه احمد)، وقال: (((خيركم خيركم لأهله، وأنا خيركم لأهـلي)))، (رواه بن ماجة)، وقال: (((أكمل المؤمنين أيماناً، وأقربهم مني مجلساً، ألطفهم بأهـله)))، (رواه الترمذي)، وقال: (((استوصوا بالنساء خيرا فإنما هن عوان عندكم، إن لكم عليهن حقا، ولهن عليكم حقا))) ، (رواه الترمذي).
فالعاقل من يوازن بين هذه النصوص، ولا يتعامل مع الدين بما تشتهيه نفسه، وقد حسم النبي عليه الصلاة والسلام، في الحديث الأخير القضية بقوله: (((إن لكم عليهن حقا، ولهن عليكم حقا)))، فالأفضلية ليس لها علاقة بالذكورة والأنوثة، وإنما هي بالتقوى والتقرب إلى الله ، والا فهي المساواة في الحقوق والواجبات، وأما من يجعل من زوجته كأنها "رقيق" فان حسابه عند الله عسير.

And I also had to suffer another shock today as I arrived to work I found my friends talking about a new fatwa regarding women in the work place.

Ya ALLAH, are those things the basics, are those things what people talking about.
Why aren’t people and our Sheyookh working more on subjects like Zaka, El Takafol and spreading the spirit of true brotherhood in Islam. Virtues like working hard, helping people out and not lying nor stealing or taking bribes. Why not showing the horma of muslim blood and tolerance for other religions.

اللهم إنَّا نعوذ بك من الفتن ما ظهر منها وما بطن. اللهم نسألك الثبات والهداية في أمورنا والعزيمة على البر والتقوى


E N G Y said...

Thanks for such posts, I find'em your best.

askandarani said...

nesok ala the rest, mati mati

Shimaa Gamal said...

I can't believe that there are people talking about "reda3et el kobar". I can't believe this is how they want people to see Islam.
Didn't they have enough from the different attacks on Islam so they making up these new fatwas.
I believe religion is common sense,
7ad yedeny 2amara fien el common sense elly tekhaly wa7da terda3 wa7ed kebeer 2al eh 3ashan tobee7 el khelwa wala tamna3 el zawag ..
it is usually the point where i start cursing ..

Rabena yehdey el 3asy ..

Miss Egyptiana "Trapped Soul" said...

O! O! we are in trouble ...

women are turning into meat to eat by fatwa ... mosh kefaya el outside influence, kaman the inside tahiiss and hags of so called "sheicks"..

sometimes i feel that those sheicks, are one of the main reasons behind the awful downgrading we r going thru ...

if women are treated as true islam said, and if the true sonna is followed, not the current efetakast of a male society ... things would be so much different

for god sake , we have been described as "sokna" in Qur'an

yaaaaaaaaahhhhh da e7na etmarmatna awe ..

tell u what, i guess the man has severe case of sexual frustration ... which lead to such nonsense ...

eyad harfoush said...

Dear Askandarani,

Sorry for the sadness I caused to you by my comments, I e-mailed you the finished parts of my book, you will find that I clarified the Hadieth that is weak in referrence, asking bearded dummies to stop using it, to stop running our religion image with it. As well, I dared to WEAKEN some of Hadieth referred by Bokhary and Muslim as "Hassan" or "Motafaq 3alih" based on the "Matn" itself that contradicts with Quran verses and other Hadieth. You will find as well I had started with the Hadieth supporting women Image before others. My message is as clear as "WE MUST FILTER OUR HERITAGE FOR GOD SAKE AND FOR ISLAM SAKE" I am doing limited efforts in this regard, and I am calling others to share

Unique Muslimah said...

That is so sad :( Wallahi it makes me feel so sad.